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Adults have jobs that anchor them in life -- children have
school. When a child is out of school, depression, anxiety, lack of
interest, and poor self-esteem can result. Without school, a child can
feel lost and without a sense of purpose.
Parents may think school is a potentially threatening place
for their sick child. They worry it might be overwhelming for their
child or that the child will get infections, become overly tired, and
maybe even be teased for being different.
It is important that children return to school as soon as
possible after they're diagnosed with cancer. Children often see school
as more than just a place for learning; it's also a place for fun and
friendship. Going back to school can be a challenge or a relief for the
child with cancer. It
also gives the child the clear message that they have a bright future
and potential for a full recovery from cancer. Parents will benefit,
too, when their lives become more normal. Siblings will also begin to
get some much-needed extra attention when the child goes back to
school. It truly is a "win-win" situation for the child and the whole
family.
If you have not seen our information on Children Diagnosed
with Cancer: Dealing with Diagnosis, you may
want to read it before or
while you are making plans for the child's return to school. You can
read it online, or you can call us for a copy.
Good communication starts early
After your child is diagnosed and long before any plans are
made to return to school, talk with your child's teacher and
school counselor about the cancer. You may also need to write the
principal about the child's diagnosis and hospitalization. The teacher
needs to know the type of cancer, any treatment the child may be
getting, the expected reactions to the treatment , and how long an
absence you expect. You will need to keep these lines of communication
open as the school year goes on, for the benefit of both the teacher
and your child. As much as possible, the child should continue with
school work even while in the hospital or when at home before returning
to school. Each state has laws to help make this possible. Including
the school nurse in these discussions is helpful, too. The nurse may be
needed if the child feels ill at school or requires medicines or other
health services during the school day.
During your child's cancer treatment, you will want to talk
with the doctor and the cancer care team to estimate when to plan the
return to school. After you come up with a rough date, you can talk
with the cancer team social worker and child life specialist to get
some ideas about putting this plan into effect. When back at school,
your child may now need help that was not needed before. Sometimes
called special
accommodations, this may include special equipment,
using audio books, or getting help with certain physical activities.
The teacher and principal will need to know about this, as well as the
school counselor and the nurse.
Some hospitals and schools have a school re-entry program,
where a school liaison or advocate meets with the child and family,
finds out what help is needed to return to school, contacts the school,
and sets up meetings to inform staff of any special needs of the child.
In the meeting, a social worker or nurse will talk with the teachers,
parents, and child about how to help the child adjust to being in
school again. Even if special accommodations are not likely to be
needed, you can still ask for a meeting to develop an Individual
Educational Plan (see the section "What is an IEP or 504
plan?") to
help address any problems.
How your child's cancer may affect school
performance
Most children will readjust well to school after a cancer
illness. But cancer and cancer treatments can cause physical,
emotional, and cognitive (ability to think and reason) changes, which
can affect the child in school. You can help your child by watching for
problems, so they can be dealt with before they become hard to manage.
A child who has had cancer may have short-term weight loss or
gain, hair loss, skin color changes, and pain. He may have an
amputation or an obvious scar from cancer surgery. She may have hearing
loss from high doses of antibiotics or chemotherapy. Chemotherapy may
also cause fatigue, weakness, and a low blood count that may make the
child prone to infection. If a child has had a bone marrow transplant
or total body irradiation, his growth may be delayed. Radiation
treatment to the head may interfere with her intelligence. This is
usually not an immediate effect but can be seen later. If the child is
younger when getting the radiation, the effects may be greater.
Children may have some learning problems as a result of
treatment. Some of these include:
- Trouble paying attention; may tend to "space out"
- Difficulty remembering visual information, such
what was seen on a blackboard or in a book
- Problems writing quickly or accurately
- Trouble keeping up with new material
- Difficulty with math problems, columns, or graphs
- Problems planning and organizing
- Inability to copy from a blackboard
You may also notice:
- Your child was an A student before the illness and
now makes C's with a great deal of effort.
- Your child reads a story but can't retell
it once he has finished reading it.
- Your child is frustrated by school and complains
about not understanding the teacher.
It's important to remember that creativity and the
ability to learn through hearing (rather than reading) is not usually
affected by cancer or its treatment. (See our document, Late Effects of
Childhood Cancer for more information.) And
noticing these problems and
getting help with them right away is important for your child's
learning and self-esteem.
If your child has a learning problem
If your child needs extra help learning, keep in mind that all
children have a right to education in the least restrictive
environment. This means that your child will be with other non-impaired
children as much as possible. If parents have an issue with the school
and the education their child is getting, they have the right to
request a third party mediator to settle disagreements.
It is best to meet with the school psychologist or counselor
first. This person can test your child for learning problems. If your
child has had radiation to his brain, you may want to ask for testing
whether you notice a problem or not. The staff will test reading,
writing, math skills, memory, comprehension, attention, concentration,
and fine motor skills. After getting all of this information, the
school can develop an Individual Education Plan (IEP) or a 504 plan for
your child.
What
is an IEP or 504 plan?
An Individual Education Plan or a 504 Plan is a plan developed
by both parents and teachers to meet the individual needs of a student.
The plan describes your child's learning problem and sets
specific goals for your child's education. It will include
referrals to other services if needed, such as occupational therapy or
speech therapy, and provide for regular evaluation of the plan.
Sometimes students will improve when their work is oral and not
written. They may do better when they can use a computer, audio-books,
or are given more time to complete assignments. Even if your child had
an IEP or 504 Plan when coming back to school, the plan can be changed
later to address any cognitive changes due to the cancer or its
treatment. (If your child meets the legal requirements to qualify for
"special education," the plan is called an IEP; if not, it's a 504
Plan.)
It can seem pretty unfair to have cancer and then to struggle
to go back to school. But learning as much as you can about potential
problems can help you and your child adjust faster. There are other
resources that may help you. There is one booklet, Educating the Child
With Cancer, which is written by both parents and
educators that is
provided free by the Candlelighters Cancer Childhood Foundation. See
the "Additional resources"
section for more details.
What if my child doesn't want to go to
school?
Finding excuses to miss school suggests that the child is
struggling with some part of going back there. If the child can tell
you why there are problems at school, the parent may want to meet with
the school teacher, counselor, and principal to see what can be done to
address the concerns. For example, they may want to talk about shorter
days for the child who has fatigue. Or they may come up with a plan
that combines time at school and home tutoring. It really helps to find
ways for your child to be in school at least part of the time, since
school lets your child be with other kids and find a routine that
works.
Older kids and teens may not want to go back to school because
they look different, or because their long absences may have changed in
their social standing with friends. If treatment has changed the way
they learn, that may also be frustrating and hard to deal with. Again,
extra support at home and at school can help with this transition back
to school. Nurses, school liaisons, and school counselors can help
prepare the teacher and classmates for your child's return to school.
Don't hesitate to address any concerns that might come up--there are
many things that can be done to make the return to school comfortable
for you and your child.
My child isn't sure what to say when others
ask about the
cancer.
Talk with your child about returning to school and try to be
ready for questions classmates may have about his cancer. Explain to
your child that his friends may not understand much about cancer and
might say and ask some strange things. Some typical questions are:
"What is cancer?", "Are you going to die?", "Can I catch it?", and "Can
you still play?" Talk with your child about how to answer each of these
questions. It may help younger children if a nurse or teacher explains
that cancer is not contagious and that no one did anything to cause it.
Some children are happy to know that they can respond to many
questions without a long explanation:
- Thanks for asking, but it's kind of hard to talk
about this at school.
- I don't know the answer to that question.
- Maybe you can you ask the teacher or the nurse
about that.
Depending on the situation, the child may want to change the
subject in a friendly way, maybe with talk about school, an offer to
play, or another non-cancer-related topic.
Teens may want to know where they can go for a break or
special support during the day. But others might not want to seem
different from their friends, so they don't want to do anything that
singles them out. As with younger children, it helps for teens to talk
with a parent or counselor about answering questions in a way that
feels right for them. Some may choose not to talk about their cancer at
school. Others may want to be ready with quick and easy answers for
common questions or comments.
Every child has a coping style. Helping them figure out what
feels best for them before they go back to school will help them deal
with questions from friends and classmates in a way that feels OK to
them.
Additional
resources
More information from your American Cancer
Society
We have selected some related information that may also be
helpful to you. These materials may be ordered from our toll-free
number, 1-800-227-2345.
- When Your Child's Treatment Ends: A Guide for Families
- Surgery
(also available in Spanish)
- Because...Someone I Love Has
Cancer
- What Happened to You, Happened to Me (booklet for kids with
cancer)
- When Your Brother or Sister Has Cancer (booklet for the
brother or sister of a child with cancer)
The following books are available from the
American Cancer Society.
Call us at 1-800-227-2345 to ask about costs or to place your
order.
National organizations and Web sites*
Along with the American Cancer Society, other sources of
information and support include:
National
Dissemination Center for Children with Disabilities (NICHCY)
Toll-free number: 1-800-695-0285
Web site: www.nichcy.org
Cancer Kids
Web site: www.cancerkids.com
CancerKids is an online-only resource designed to help kids, from ages
5 to 11, learn about cancer in a fun and interactive manner.
Candlelighters™
Childhood Cancer Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-800-366-2223 or 1-800-366-CCCF
Web site: www.candlelighters.org
Provides information and parent support groups. Note that some of the
books for children listed below are available from this group.
CureSearch
National Childhood Cancer Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-800-458-6223
Web site: www.curesearch.org
Special information for childhood cancer survivors is available from
CureSearch at: www.survivorshipguidelines.org.
Information from some
of the world's best pediatric cancer specialists is available on their
Web site.
Hair Club for
Kids
Toll-free number: 1-800-269-7384 (If reach voicemail, leave a message
for a return call.)
Web site: www.hairclub.com/hc_for_kids.php
Offers free hair restoration services to children ages 6 through 17 who
have hair loss due to cancer treatments.
The National
Children's Cancer Society, Inc.
Toll-free number: 1-800-532-6459 (1-800-5-FAMILY)
Web site: www.children-cancer.org
National
Coalition for Cancer Survivorship
Toll-free number: 1-877-622-7937 or 1-301-650-9127
Web site: www.canceradvocacy.org
Starlight
Starbright Children's Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-800-315-2580
Web site: www.starlight.org
Web site has animated stories and interactive programs to
teach kids
about the procedures that may be done in the hospital; also provides
safe, monitored online support group for teens with cancer.
American Pain
Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-888-615-7246
Web site: www.painfoundation.org
The Leukemia
& Lymphoma Society
Toll-free number: 1-800-955-4572
Web site: www.lls.org
National Brain
Tumor Society
Toll-free number: 1-800-934-2873 or 1-800-934-CURE
Web site: www.braintumor.org
Children's Brain
Tumor Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-866-228-HOPE (1-866-228-4673)
Web site: www.cbtf.org
National
Organization for Rare Disorders
Toll-free number: 1-800-999-6673
Web site: www.rarediseases.org
The National Organization for Rare Disorders (NORD) is a federation of
more than 2,000 nonprofit voluntary health organizations serving people
with rare "orphan" disorders and disabilities. NORD maintains extensive
databases of resources and provides referrals to organizations only
(referrals do not include health care providers or treatment
facilities).
CaringBridge
- Web site, support and email
Telephone: 651-789-2300
Web site: www.caringbridge.org
CaringBridge offers free, personal Web sites that help you stay
connected to family and friends during illness; lets patients and
caregivers keep loved ones informed via email.
Patient Advocate
Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-800-532-5274
Web site: www.patientadvocate.org
The Patient Advocate Foundation (PAF) is a national non-profit
organization that serves as an active liaison between the patient and
their insurer, employer and/or creditors to resolve insurance, job
retention and/or debt crisis matters relative to their diagnosis
through case managers, doctors and attorneys. Patient Advocate
Foundation seeks to safeguard patients through effective mediation
assuring access to care, maintenance of employment and preservation of
their financial stability. PAF programs are listed below.
National Cancer
Institute
Toll-free number: 1-800-4-CANCER (1-800-422-6237)
TTY: 1-800-332-8615
Web site: www.cancer.gov
The Lance
Armstrong Foundation
Toll-free number: 1-866-673-7205
Web site: www.livestrong.org
The Lance Armstrong Foundation (LAF) unites people to fight cancer,
believing that unity is strength, knowledge is power and attitude is
everything. LAF works to provide the information and tools people
battling cancer need to live life on their own terms
Web sites for teens and children
2bMe
Web site: www.2bme.org
2bMe is part of Look Good...Feel Better for Teens. For those ages 13
through 17, it gives information on many appearance-related, social,
and nutritional side effects of treatment.
Beyond the Cure
(part of the National Children's Cancer Society for teens)
Web site: www.beyondthecure.org
Support and education for survivors of childhood cancer and their
families
Fertile hope
Toll-free number: 1-888-994-4673
Web site: www.fertilehope.org
To give information on having children in the future to cancer patients
whose medical treatments cause the risk of infertility.
Group Loop
Toll-free number: 1-888-793-9355 (the Wellness Community)
Web site: www.grouploop.org
An online resource for teens with cancer and their parents –
away from the daily pressures of classes, responsibilities, and
treatment schedules – to connect with other teens. Group Loop
includes online support groups, chat rooms, educational resources and
more.
Cancer.net
(was: People Living with Cancer)
Toll-free number: 1-888-651-3038
Web site: www.cancer.net/patient/Coping
(Choose "Age-specific information," then either "teens" or "children")
SuperSibs!
Toll-free number: 1-866-444-7427
Web site: www.supersibs.org
Supports, honors, and recognizes brothers and sisters of children
diagnosed with cancer so they may face the future with strength,
courage, and hope.
Teens Living
with Cancer
Web site: www.teenslivingwithcancer.org
Teens Living with Cancer is an online-only resource dedicated to teens
coping with a cancer diagnosis and treatment. Teens Living with Cancer
focuses on teen issues and provides resources to support teens, their
families and friends
I'm too young
for this
http://imtooyoungforthis.org
This is a social networking organization for young adult cancer
survivors and care providers that offers support to help improve
quality of life for young adults affected by cancer. i[2]y describes
young adults as 15 to 39 years old.
*Inclusion on
this list does not imply endorsement by the American Cancer Society.
Other publications*
For adults
Cancer
& Self-Help: Bridging the Troubled Waters of Childhood Illness by
Mark A. Chester and Barbara K. Chesney. University of Wisconsin Press,
1995.
Care for
Children and Adolescents with Cancer: Questions and Answers.
National Cancer Institute. Available at:
www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/NCI/children-adolescents or call
1-800-332-8615.
Childhood Brain
and Spinal Cord Tumors: A Guide for Families, Friends, and Caregivers,
by Tania Shiminski-Maher, Patsy McGuire Cullen, and Maria Sansalone.
O'Reilly and Associates, 2001.
Childhood
Cancer: A Parent's Guide to Solid Tumor Cancers, by Honna
Janes-Hodder and Nancy Keene. O'Reilly and Associates, 1999.
Childhood
Cancer: A Handbook from St Jude Children's Research Hospital,
by Grant Steen and Joseph Mirro (editors). Perseus Publishing, 2000.
Childhood
Cancer Survivors: A Practical Guide to Your Future, by
Nancy Keene, Wendy Hobbie, and Kathy Ruccione. O'Reilly and Associates,
2000.
Children with
Cancer: A Comprehensive Reference Guide for Parents by
Jeanne Munn Bracken and Pruden Pruden. 2nd Ed. Oxford University Press,
2005.
Educating The
Child With Cancer: A Guide for Parents and Teachers,
edited by Nancy Keene. Candlelighters Childhood Cancer Foundation,
2003.
Living with
Childhood Cancer: A Practical Guide to Help Families Cope,
by Leigh A. Woznick and Carol D. Goodheart. American Psychological
Association, 2002.
Surviving
Childhood Cancer: A Guide for Families by Margo Joan
Fromer. New Harbinger Publications, 1998.
When Bad Things
Happen to Good People.by Harold Kushner. G.K. Hall, 1982.
When Someone
You Love is Being Treated for Cancer. National Cancer
Institute. Available at:
www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/when-someone-you-love-is-treated, or call
1-800-332-8615.
Young People
with Cancer: A Handbook for Parents. National Cancer
Institute, 2003. Available at: www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/youngpeople,
or call 1-800-332-8615.
Your Child in
the Hospital: A Practical Guide for Parents. 2nd Ed. By
Nancy Keene. N. O'Reilly & Associates. 1999. (Also available in
Spanish)
Books for children
Although these books are intended for children, younger kids
are helped more when an adult reads with and helps the child reflect
about what different parts of the book mean to the child.
Chemo,
Craziness and Comfort: My Book about Childhood Cancer by
Nancy Keene. Candlelighters Childhood Cancer Foundation, 2002. Can be
ordered from www.candlelighters.org. For ages 6 to 12.
Childhood
Cancer Survivors: A Practical Guide to Your Future (2nd
Ed.), by Kathy Ruccione, Nancy Keene, and Wendy Hobbie, 2006. For older
teens.
Life Isn't
Always A Day at the Beach: A Book for All Children Whose Lives Are
Affected by Cancer by Pam Ganz. High-Five Publishing,
1996. Workbook for 6 to 10.
Little Tree: A
Story for Children with Serious Medical Problems, By Joyce
C. Mills. Magination Press, 2003. For ages 4 to 8.
Living Well
With My Serious Illness, by Marge Heegaard.
Fairview Press 2003. For age 8 to 12.
Me and My Marrow
by Karen Crowe. Fujsawa Healthcare 1999. You can buy it as a book, but
it's also available online at: www.meandmymarrow.com/book/toc_ie.htm.
For teens.
My Book for
Kids with Cansur [sic], by Jason Gaes. Viking Penguin,
1998. My Book for Kids with Cansur: A Child's Autobiography of Hope.
For ages 4 to 8.
What About Me?
When Brothers and Sisters Get Sick, by Allan Peterkin and
Frances Middendorf. Magination Press, 1992 For brothers and sisters of
a child with cancer. For ages 4 to 8.
When Someone
Has a Very Serious Illness: Children can learn to cope with loss and
change, by Marge Heegaard. Woodland Press, 1991. For ages
6 to 12.
Why, Charlie
Brown, Why? A Story About What Happens When a Friend is Very Ill,
by Charles M. Schultz. Ballantine Publishing Group, 1990. For ages 6 to
12.
*Inclusion on
this list does not imply endorsement by the American Cancer Society.
No matter who you are, we can help. Contact us anytime, day or
night, for information and support. Call us at 1-800-227-2345 or
visit www.cancer.org.
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Last Medical Review: 06/02/2009
Last Revised: 06/02/2009
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